My husband had two surgeries in 4 weeks. It stresses me out when my people are stressed out. Watching him deal with the pain made me exhausted. Then he was barely recovered and had to leave on a business trip. My daughter was gone the same week. So I should have had a nice quiet time all by myself. Did that happen? Of course not!
Let me tell you my tale.
It all started when my daughter brought home a stray cat. It had kittens. The same day the kittens were born one of our goats gave birth to twins. The mom decided not to feed one of them so we had to bottle feed her. The next week baby chicks started to hatch. The next week my husband had his first surgery. The next week my sweet son asked if we would take the Lab puppy his girlfriend gave him. He lives in an apartment. What were we supposed to say? So we inherited a puppy. It’s very much like having a newborn.
Then my husband went to the doctor for a post surgery follow up only to find out he needed a second surgery. He and my daughter both left on trips three days after his surgery. And no he wasn’t recovered but he mostly just had to play chaperon for a highschooler. He’s a teacher.
That left me with basically 14 newborns to care for by myself. 10 baby chicks, 3 kittens, 1 puppy and 1 goat. My mom was out of town too or she would have helped. Did I mention I sliced my index finger open and almost had to have stitches?
By the time my husband and daughter returned I was exhausted. It took me two weeks to recover. I finally feel like myself again. So I have said all that to say this: Sometimes your life will go off the rails. Sometimes you will feel totally out of control. It’s okay. It really is. The events will pass. You will get back to normalish. And you will continue on your journey. You just have to hang on until your help gets there or the event passes. If they don’t know you need help then you need to call them. Your situation probably isn’t forever. Your train will get back on track. You will continue on. You will make it through.
And when you do hopefully you can do like I did and laugh and congratulate myself for making it through such a crazy time. High Five! You deserve it.
Figure out what is important to you and make sure you include that in your life.
One of the most important people in my life is my grandmother. Everyone calls her Mama Jean. She is known and loved by all in the small town I grew up in.
She knows how to love. She is willing to help anyone who needs it.
She knows how to be a true friend. I have rarely heard her speak a bad word about anyone even if they hurt her.
She is the women I want to be like when I grow up.
She has every reason to be bitter.
She has had a tough life. But she handles herself with beauty and grace.
She is a women who changes with the times.
She is on Facebook and regularly sends email.
She wanted an iPad for her last birthday.
Did I mention she turned 90?
Yeah you want to be her when you grow up too, don’t you?
She is AWESOME!
I love you Mama Jean!
So take the time to remember what’s important. Actually visit with your family when you see them. When Uncle Harold tells the same old story that he tells every year instead of ignoring him ask him questions. You might learn something.
All to often we disregard those who have come before us. Those that have already lived most of their lives.
Don’t do that. They are a fount of wisdom and knowledge.
And one day they won’t be there to ask. One day you will think I wish I had asked Uncle Harold about that.
Take the time now to enjoy your family for who they are. Learn what you can from the lives they have led. Don’t go into the holidays thinking they are an annoyance. Go into it thinking you will enjoy yourself and accept them for who they are. They aren’t going to change. Why do you keep thinking they will?
Keep what is important uppermost in your mind.
What is important to you?
Let me know in the comments below.
If you want to live a longer and better life you need to have a perspective of gratitude.
You never know when that failure or annoyance will have a positive effect on your life later. Maybe there was a lesson you needed to learn before you could progress to a better place. Failures and annoyances show us what we need to improve or what we don’t want in our life.
If that person in the grocery line loudly complaining is annoying you then be thankful. They are showing you how you don’t want to act. What is a better use of your time? Complaining about them and how annoying they were or being thankful that you know how you don’t want to act? Which is a better use of your time and energy? It takes far less energy to be thankful and grateful than to be worked up about something or someone else. Don’t you have better things to do with your time and energy? Why are you giving it all to that annoying person?
This concept of giving your energy away is one that I have really worked on in my life. People think I’m calm and easygoing, but the truth is that I don’t want to waste my time and energy on pettiness. When people come to me, especially those chronic complainers who complain about everything, I just smile and nod. I acknowledge them but I don’t feed the flame or try to solve the problem. If they don’t have that to complain about they’ll find something else. Don’t waste your time and energy. Send them on their way.
Do you get annoyed and upset when a plan or idea fails? This is an area I really struggle with in my life. I like to have a plan and complete it. It often throws me off balance if I have to change my plan. Today is a good example. I planned to build a new layered garden bed. I went outside to start my project. The first step is to lay down wet cardboard and then layer on top. We have a cold front coming in today. The wind is gusting and blowing things everywhere. I could either wait until another day or try to chase down flying cardboard. I decided to wait. I could have gotten upset because I had to change my plans but I didn’t. I decided to come in and work on my blog posts. I originally had that scheduled for tomorrow. I could have gotten upset and gotten nothing done or I could change directions and work on something else. I had a choice to make. Got something else done or get nothing done. Today I won. I made the right choice and got something done.
The funny thing is I am willing to bet that something is going to happen tomorrow. Something that would have prevented me from writing my blog posts. So today I am going to be grateful. I am going to have an attitude of gratitude. I have finished my blog posts for the week. A goal I really stress about until it is done. I have gathered most of my garden bed supplies so I can put that together when wind dies down. With my work complete I get to spend a relaxing day with my family tomorrow.
In this season where everyone is rushing around and worrying about presents and food, slow down. Be grateful for what you have. Be grateful for the lessons you have learned in your life. Be grateful you know what you don’t want in your life. Be grateful for a new direction. Be grateful for your life itself.
Adopt an attitude of gratitude and see how it changes your life.
Why are you grateful?
Let me know in the comments below.
It’s all about attitude. Attitude is everything.
How you react to an event will determine whether you are happy or not.
You make the determination to be happy with your thoughts, actions and reactions to the events in your life.
Yesterday after an awesome yoga class with Kathy at Windhorse Yoga I felt great and had a big smile on my face. During the last five minutes of class thunder started to boom.
I was very excited!
It’s been about six weeks of 95 plus degree days since we have had any rain. So I was sitting and putting on my shoes anticipating the rain I could hear starting outside.
One yoga friend flitted out the door with a smile on her face saying, “I’m off to dance in the rain.”
The second yoga girl out the door had a frown on her face. “Great,” she said. “Now we’ll have even worse humidity.”
So there I was, my great attitude deflated. I had a choice. I could buy into the negativity of the second person or join in the joy of dancing in the rain.
I chose to dance in the rain.
What choices did you face today? Let me know in the comments below.