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Do you live a life you are proud to live?

Are you proud of your life?  Are you proud to tell people what you do?  Who you are?  Where you are going?  Are you proud of the choices you have made in your life?  Are you living the priorities and values you want to live?

Why not?

We all make choices that are stupid and that we are not proud of making.  I know I have.  It’s part of being human.  What counts is if we recognize that it is a stupid choice and decide not to do it again.  

Everyone has different priorities and values.  And that’s okay.  Just because your priorities and values are different than mine doesn’t make my choice or yours wrong.  They are just different.

What are your priorities?

Mine are my family, building my blog and living a healthy life.  

I try to spend time each day with my family listening to their trials and tribulations and finding out what is going on in their world.  I make sure I call my mom at least every couple of days to make sure she is okay and find out what she is up to.

I make time every week to work on my blog.  It may not be all the time I want but I make sure to schedule it in.  

I meal plan so I have healthy meals and snacks on hand.  And I schedule my exercise weekly.

Those are my priorities.  The things that are important in my life.  Those are the things I make sure I have time for in my week.  But what about values?

Values point more towards your character. Towards your rules for living.

I try to treat others as I would want to be treated.  I try to give people the benefit of the doubt.  Everyone has bad days.  You never know what is going on in someone’s life.  It is not your place to judge them.  If you don’t like them then don’t interact with them unless you have to.

I try not to get angry.  I think anger is a huge waste of time.  In the time spent complaining about something you could have fixed it.  

I try my best to be a nice, happy person others want to be around.  Who wants to be around someone who is always complaining and unhappy?

I try my best to fulfill promises that I make.  This has been a hard one for me but I am getting better.  I have learned not to commit to things just to make others happy.  If it doesn’t work for my life I just say no thank you.

If you don’t have priorities and values in your life you won’t know when you have overbooked yourself.  You won’t know what is important to you and your life.  You won’t make the best choices for you.  And you won’t know when a choice crosses a line you have set for yourself.  Knowing your priorities and values makes for a happier healthier you.  

What is your most important priority or value?  Let me know in the comments or at #HappyHealthyLife.


Endless Possibilities

As I lay in bed in the quiet early morning hours I was filled with anticipation.   Anticipation of the day to come.  A day filled with endless possibilities.

Saturday mornings are my favorite mornings.  Saturday is the one day I can do whatever I want to do.  I can spend the day writing.  I can go shopping with my daughter.  I can linger over breakfast and talk to my husband.

I wake up early, excited with a smile on my face.  I have lots of fun things to do.  Things that make my soul sing with happiness.

But the sad thing is that I don’t wake up this way every morning.  

Don’t you think it would be the most awesome thing if you could?

If you could wake up to a day of endless possibilities?

And maybe you do.  I just know at this point in my life that I don’t.

But I want to.  I want this very much.  

I know everyone has responsibilities.  And I’m not talking about not taking care of those.  But it seems that we have less and less time to do the things that we really enjoy in life.  We don’t have time to slow down and experience the pleasures around us.  

This is something I am working on in my life.

The ability to wake up in anticipation of all the great things my day holds.

To work on projects that fill me with joy.

To slow down and enjoy my life and share that joy with others around me.

To embrace the endless possibilities of my day.

What do you do on a day of endless possibilities?

Let me know in the comments below or at #HappyHealthyLife.


Just in case you are wondering this is what you do at 3:40 in the morning if you are a blogger and a large gold cat jumps in the bed and wakes you up and you can’t go back to sleep.


Are You Building on a Firm Foundation?

Everything we build must start with a firm and stable foundation.  If we build on anything less eventually everything we have built will come tumbling down.  What does the foundation of your life look like?  What ground are you building on?

We all have things we need to clear out of our life to make way for change.  To make way for the life we want to live.

It could be bad habits.  It could be unsupportive friends.  It could be guilt.  It could be debt.  What is stopping you from changing your life?  What things are you teeter tottering on knowing you are going to crash and burn?

rebeccasroadmap.comI’ve had to change habits in my life.  I don’t get to read for pleasure as much as I used to.  Instead I work on this blog and educate myself to improve my life.  I’ve had to tell my money where I want it to go instead of spending willy nilly without a plan.  I’ve had to change my eating to increase my energy and health.  

None of these things sound fun do they?  Yeah sometimes they are not.  But if you want to build a new life you have to make some hard choices.  You have to decide how to spend your time, spend your money and spend your energy.  These choices will give you a good firm foundation to build on.

So what if you are in the hole under the foundation?  You are so far under you don’t know how you will ever get out with more weight crashing on you all the time.

Pick one thing.  What is causing you the most stress?  How you spend your time, your money or your energy?  Whichever is the most painful stop increasing the pain now.  Stop digging your hole deeper and figure out a plan to climb out.  It may not be easy.  It may not be pretty.  But you need to get out of the hole.  Once you have a firm handle on that item go to the second.  And set a plan for that.  And remember this will take time.  A building isn’t built in a day.  The foundation is the most important part.  Take your time and work on it.

What do you need to work on?  Let me know in the comments or at #HappyHealthyLife.



So many of us have dreams.  Dreams of all the things we want to do and be.  Dreams of all the adventures we’ll have.  Dreams of the life we wish we could live.

So many of us have dreams and yet we sit and watch tv or play games and think I’ll work on that tomorrow.  Well tomorrow is here.  If you don’t seize the day, the time right now, and work on your dreams you will never get to where you want to be.  You will never live the life you want to live.  

Is it hard?  Hell yes it’s hard.  It’s the hardest thing I’ve ever done.  The pace is monotonously slow.  Crawling inch by inch toward my dreams.  Is it worth it?

Only you can decide that for yourself.

rebeccasroadmap.comDo you want to keep struggling and stressing looking at your dream getting further and further away?  Or do you want to grab onto it for dear life?

Because that could be what it means.  Your life.  Staying on a path of stress and strife especially when you feel powerless is a quick way to the grave.  

If you really want to change your life.  If you really want to live your dream you need to grab it and don’t let go.

The power is in your hands.

The power is in my hands.

Are you going to continue to say poor me?   Nobody loves me.  I’m going to eat some worms.

Or are you going to get off your butt and do something about it?

I know you’re tired.  I’m tired too.  But I want better for myself and my family than the life I’m living.  I want to wake up happy to face my day.  I want to stop and smell the roses.  And I mean that literally.  I’ve had a spot picked out for a rose garden for about five years now.

So what’s different?  What’s different about me now and me five years ago?

I finally got off my butt and did something.  

I have a dream.  I’m fighting for it every step of the way.  I’m crawling those inches using my fingernails to pull me along.  It’s slow but I am making progress.

I never let a week go by that I don’t make some progress on my dream.  It may not be as much as I want but it is progress nevertheless.  

What about you?  What do you want?  What are your dreams?  What are you doing about it?

Let me know in the comments or at #HappyHealthyLife.


Why Not You?

You see someone doing something awesome and cool and you think “I wish I could do that.”  

Why Not You?  Why can’t you do that?


So many people limit themselves.  They look at a car and think I can’t afford that.  They hear about a vacation trip and think I could never take that much time off of work.  But why not you?  Why Can’t You do it?

You need to change your thinking.  You need to start thinking.  I would love to own that car.  My family would love to go on that vacation.  HOW can I make it happen?  What changes can you make to your life today that could make that possible?

No one is smarter than you.  No one is more creative than you.  No one deserves it more than you.  So figure it out.  Come up with a plan.

You might have to work years before you can make it happen.  But if you don’t have the will.  You don’t have the desire.  You will never get anywhere but where you are today.  No one is an overnight success.  Most people don’t see the hours and years of work they put in before they made it big.

And speaking of big, your dreams are your own.  You don’t have to aspire to a huge mansion.  Your dream might be a country cottage.  You don’t have to aspire to fancy cars you might want a rugged jeep.  But figure out what it is that you want.  Because you can have it.    

Just think.  If you come up with a plan of action.  If you put in the work so you could buy the new car or pay for the dream vacation.  What else could you do if you put your mind to it?  You may have even bigger dreams.  

You are only limited by your imagination.

Find your destination.  Change your life.  I dare you!  

Why not you?  

Tell me your dream in the comments below.