If you know something is going to cause a problem then fix it or do something about it before it’s a problem. You were given that insight for a reason. Use it! Do something about it!
Stop wasting your time on a problem that could have taken 5 minutes to fix 6 months ago, but will now take you 2 hours. Your time is more valuable than that!
And so is your money! Because you know it will cost you much more to fix the problem once it has grown.
So be proactive. Solve the problem now instead of waiting until it must be done.
Don’t wait. Get whatever you have been putting off done today.
What have you been putting off that you can get done today?
Tell me in the comments below.
I called to place an order the other day and began chit chatting with the customer service person. The talk soon turned to the upcoming Labor Day weekend. “Labor Day makes me depressed,” she said. I had to stop and think for a moment. This was Labor Day right? Not Memorial Day or Veteran’s Day. Why would she be depressed because it was Labor Day?
So I asked her, “Why does Labor Day make you depressed?” “It’s the start of winter. We’ll have ice and snow. I’ll have to wear 20 lbs of clothing to stay warm.” On and on she went telling me how bad winter would be.
I told her what I thought about winter. “Winter is a time to snuggle with a good book and hot chocolate. It’s a time to dream and plan for the upcoming spring. It’s a time of rest and recovery.” She didn’t want to hear anything I said. Her mind was already made up.
I found that very sad. This woman is going to live the next six months in misery. She has already made up her mind to do so. Now winter is my least favorite season of the year but I don’t look forward to it with dread. I know there will be some funky days but I also know that it is a time for celebrating, for spending time with family. A time to celebrate the closing of one year and the beginning of the next. Just think of how much you are missing by already deciding that you are going to be miserable or bored or unhappy.
Whatever you think you are going to be, you will be. So be determined to be happy. Be determined to find at least one interesting person to talk to at the party. Be determined to enjoy all the little moments in life. Because if you string all the little moments together you have a great big wonderful life.
What attitude shifts can you make to enjoy this season in your life?
Let me know in the comments below.
So in my last blog post I told you to “make your own rules.”
And I could hear you as I typed that saying, “But Rebecca, How Do I Make My Own Rules?”
I think I subconsciously had my own rules all along but this concept really clicked when I read Gretchen Rubin’s The Happiness Project.
She calls them her Secrets to Adulthood but they are your rules so you can call them anything you like.
But I think it’s important that you do have rules or guidelines for your life in place. They will be a sounding board when you are faced with a decision or a crisis.
Here are some of Gretchen’s rules:
Here are some of my rules:
If I’m going somewhere where I might be cold I grab a jacket. It doesn’t matter if anyone complains or thinks it’s ridiculous. I want to be comfortable so I’m bringing my jacket.
If I’m going somewhere I always bring a snack. It doesn’t matter if my husband assures me we’ll be home before lunch. We might run late or I might get hungry. My snack is in my bag.
If I’m going somewhere I always bring my kindle. If my husband runs into a store for “just a minute” I don’t sit in the car and wish he would hurry I pull out my kindle and read a chapter or four.
All of my rules are in place for my happiness.
I want to decrease the stress and worry in my life as much as I can.
No one will worry about your happiness more than you.
So take care of you!
I’m not talking about not taking care of others or being selfish. I’m talking about self care.
If you don’t take care of yourself you can’t take care of others.
Make sure you can be in a mind frame to be happy and spend the day with a smile on your face.
If you don’t have any rules then pay attention as you go through your day. Once the concept is in your mind you’ll have the thought, “Oh, that’s one of my rules.”
I think everyone has them they just don’t consciously think of them as rules.
Knowing and acknowledging your rules for life will make your life happier and your decisions easier.
And that is important.
Because what happens if you are invited to a party that starts at 9pm but you know one of your rules is to wake up at 5am so you can get your important work done?
Well that’s your decision.
You can follow your rules and say, “I’m sorry I have to wake up at 5am,” because you know this guy gives these boring parties every weekend.
Or your can recognize that it’s a once and a lifetime event with dancing, happy people and it will make you happy so you can break your rule.
It’s all in your hands. The rules are yours.
So what’s your most important rule? Let me know below in the comments.
The start of new projects, ideas and creations can be hard. Where do you start? There are so many things you “must” do.
If you are starting a business you must have a blog or website, you must have a facebook page, you must tweet to people, you must have an Instagram account.
Now Periscope has come on the scene and that is the latest “must do”.
If you are starting a book you “must” have it in the proper format. It “must” contain at least 30,000 words. It “must” be professionally edited. It “must” have an awesome cover.
If you are starting an art journal. You “must” use this special journal. You “must” use these special pens. You “must” follow the rules!
So slowly take a deep breath! Now take another one. Now for the third.
Are you feeling calmer? Great! Me too! Let’s take this one step at a time.
Now who is making the rules? The ones that everyone says you “must” follow?
The people selling the stuff that they say you need.
If it’s not those people then it’s the people who are listening to those very people and believing that they “must” have this stuff.
That you “must” have their stuff to complete your project.
And I’m telling you now that’s just not true. You “must” start where you are.
Start with what you know and branch out from there. You “must” use the easiest, quickest route to get your stuff done so you can share it with the world.
That’s what’s important. That’s what you “must” do.
It’s not important that it’s perfect. It’s not important if your family thinks it’s stupid. It’s not important that it’s not how everyone else does it.
Do it your way. That’s what is important.
Make your own rules! That’s the only path to true happiness.
What “must dos” are you leaving behind today?
Tell me in a comment below.
Are you a worker ant in life?
This question came to mind as I was driving to work this morning.
Today is the first day of school so I left the house a little earlier than usual. As I turned the corner I saw other cars also turning onto the main road out of our subdivision. As we all fell in line I had a vision of worker ants one after another off to do their jobs.
I thought, “Is this really what I want for my life?”
I know the answer is NO but this visual really drove home the point.
I don’t want to be a worker ant in life following everyone else and working on other people’s projects and agendas.
I want to be an Ant Queen orchestrating everyone else’s life. Okay maybe that’s a little too far but you get my point. I want to be in control of my own destiny and working on my dreams not working on someone else’s dreams.
I want to travel my own road not someone else’s road.
So what road are you on? What’s your destination?
Tell me in the comments below.