Category Archives for "Real Life"

Falling Off the Horse

You decide to change your life.  You make a plan and start making things happen.  You start getting things done.

Then it happens.

Real life interferes with your plans.

You get sick.  Your husband has to go to the ER.  Your kid has school programs you have to attend.

All of these things have happened to me in the the last couple of weeks.  I feel I have really fallen off the wagon.  My get up and go has gone somewhere else.  

The last thing I feel like doing is writing a blog post.  I don’t feel like reading about or learning about anything motivational.  I just want to sit here and listen to the rain fall.  Did I mention it’s been raining for the last three days?  It has.  It’s a rainy, gloomy, soggy, muddy mess here.  I just want to curl up with a book and stay warm and dry.

And that is what I’ve been doing for the last couple of days.  These days of Thanksgiving break that I had planned out.  I had many things I wanted to get done.  And I got none of them done.

Tonight I had a choice.  I could keep sloughing off and listening to the rain or I could get out my laptop and write a blog post.  

The thing you have to remember is once you let one thing slide it’s easy to let the next thing slide.

So I could continue to read and not write my blog post that is supposed to go out tomorrow or I could get out my laptop and make myself get to work.  

Can I just say that I feel better just writing this down?  For getting something accomplished that I had planned for this weekend.

Getting somewhere in this life is a balance.  I had to give myself permission to not feel well.  To take the time off and go to my daughter’s programs.  To not be mad at my husband for dislocating his toe and derailing his plans which derailed mine.  I had to give myself permission to fall off the horse.

But I also have to make myself get back on and ride.  I had to make myself fulfill the commitment I had made to myself to write this blog post.

If you don’t fulfill the promises you make to yourself are you really going to fulfill the promises you make to others?

So today.  Right now.  It doesn’t matter how many times you have failed in the past.  It doesn’t matter how many times you have fallen off the horse.

It only matters that you pick yourself up and try again.

Today I’m picking myself up and getting back to work.

What have you failed to do that you are going to try once again?

Let me know in the comments below.


Is failure the end or is failure just a step?

How do you judge failure in your life?  Is failure a place where you stop or a place where you figure out what you did wrong?

I have been trying to have a successful garden for the last twenty years.  I have done some things right and many things wrong.  I have not let my failures prevent me from trying again.  I am in fact planning my next garden right now.

I am very guilty of reading every possible thing about a subject.  I have plenty of knowledge in my head.  But actually putting that knowledge to work is different.  

In the world of books you have a beginning and an end.  You can see all the steps along the way.

In real life you may be in the middle of a hurricane and not be able to see anything at all.  You just have to keep going and figure it out as you go along.  Nothing is perfect in the real world.  

If you don’t accept failure as the end and give up, then you can see that failure is just one step along the way.  You will have many failures in your life and they will usually lead to your greatest successes.

Don’t let failure stop you.  Be grateful.  Now you know what not to do next time.

What failures are you working on in your life?

Let me know in the comments below.  

Red Light, Yellow Light

What do you do when you aren’t feeling your best?  When it’s all you can do to get through the day?


Everyone always talks about their green light days.  Days when everything is perfect and on schedule. But do you have a plan for red light and yellow light days?  

A yellow light day might be a day when you have a virus and are running a low grade fever.  A day when you don’t feel in top form but aren’t drastically sick.  

What are the top three things that you need to get done on a yellow light day?  Have a plan in place so the next time this happens to you you’ll be ready.

A red light day is a day when the world falls apart.  You have a wreak.  Your basement floods.  Your kid breaks an arm.  Your client hates your proposal and you have to revamp the whole plan right now.  

Is there any one thing that must be done besides the crisis?  Write it down.  Have a plan.  Make sure everyone else knows what to do.

Just like fire drills you must have an emergency plan in place for your life.

If you know there is only three things or one thing that you must do on top of your crisis then you can get it done and deal with the crisis.  You can leave everything else for tomorrow knowing it’s okay and you aren’t forgetting anything.

I’m working on my emergency plan.

What about you?  What do you think of this idea?

Tell me in the comments below.  

How to Have more Fun and Be more Creative

Is your life dreary and not much fun?

Is your creative spirit down in the dumps?

Take a look around.  I mean a real look around.  Do you have mountains of laundry?  Do you have dirty dishes in your sink?  Is your desk piled so high you can’t see the surface?

I feel your pain.  I really really do.  When I started on this path of finding what I really wanted in my life I started where I always start.  I read books.  Lots and lots of books.  I also read blogs, listened to podcasts and attended webinars.  It’s funny when you listen, watch and read so many people talk about what you need to do to be successful.  All of these people are saying the same things in a different way.  And not one of them addressed where I thought I needed to start.  

My first thought was, “Okay since I’m going to be doing extra work I better get my house in shape and on a good schedule.”  

Everything I read said forget about everything else and do what you need to do.  Write those blog posts.  Write that book.  Create that content.  Get it done!  

So I tried that.  I didn’t worry about whether or not the dishes were done.  I didn’t worry about what we would be cooking for dinner.  I didn’t worry about sweeping the kitchen floor.  And I must say I did get a lot of work done, but my environment definitely suffered.  

I’ve decided I need to go to the opposite extreme.  I need to have my household under a tight schedule so that everything will get done.  So that it will run mostly smoothly and I can have time to get my projects done too.

Back to books I went.  This time reading about housekeeping and housekeeping schedules.  And do you know what I found out as I was reading?  That’s exactly what those ladies were doing also.  The lady of the house made time for her hobbies.  She scheduled them.  She didn’t try to squeeze them in here and there.  She also made a space to work with all the best tools she could afford on hand.  “Wow,” I thought.  “That’s exactly what I want.”  

So that is the goal I’m working on right now.  Trying to figure out the best system to get it all done.  To keep my house clean, my family fed and clothed and make progress on my projects.        

Our environment plays a key role in how we think, feel and act.  Everyone has a different level of what is acceptable in their life.  You have to find yours.  If you looked around and found what you saw unacceptable.  Then do something about it.  Start with something small.  But start somewhere.  Your life is what you make it.  That includes your house too!   

My current destination is a house on a schedule.  A home that welcomes me with calm and orderly sweet smelling goodness. A home that allows me to have more fun and be more creative.  A home that enables me to be my best creative self.

Where are you on your roadmap?  What’s your current destination?

Tell me in the comments below.


The Dichotomy of Being a Mother

Do you struggle between being a mom and wearing all the other hats in your life?

Do you feel like sometimes all of your choices are bad?

I don’t know if fathers have the same problem, but it’s hard being a mother in this day and age.  I don’t know about you but I have been pulled and torn between being all I can be and being the best mom ever.  You really can’t be both or at least I can’t.  And you definitely can’t always be both at the same time.

I have guilt because I’m not there for my children.  I have guilt because I’m not doing my job to the best of my ability.  I have guilt because I’m not pursuing my dreams to be all and do all I know I can be and do.  I have guilt and feel I’m not the best at any of these things.

This morning I got torn between being late for work and taking care of my child who was injured by our cat.  I chose not to be late for work because that also could affect my child.  I left my husband to care for her since he has to be at work an hour later than I do.

My husband was not happy and didn’t think I showed the proper level of concern.  What he failed to understand was that I felt guilty as hell.  I was torn between two choices and neither was good.  I knew my daughter was in good hands so I left for work.  Of course I stressed over her injury all day and didn’t get all of my work done which caused even more stress.

I know moms like you make these hard choices everyday.  The hard choice of which role in your life takes precedence.  The hard choice of which fire to put out first.  

And that my friends is why I’m doing what I’m doing.  Why I’m writing this blog.  Why I’m developing courses and why I’m writing books.  I want to help other women and I want to help me.  I want to help my daughter and future daughter-in-law.  I want to help all of you ladies so you don’t have to feel this pain, this guilt of making choices — all of which are bad.

I want you to have freedom.  I want you to have good choices.  I want you to be able and stop and cuddle that precious baby without a clock ticking in the back of your mind.  

I want that for me too!  That is why I am on this journey.  That’s why I’m building a roadmap to a destination that will change my life.  Join my journey.  Find your destination.  Change your life.


What kind of mom guilt are you harboring?


Tell me in the comments below.