Have you set goals year after year but been able to accomplish them? Have you set SMART goals? Have you posted them to your bathroom mirror and used them as your phone background? Yeah me too. And I don’t know about you, but SMART goals don’t work for me.
Year after year I would set SMART goals and not be able to accomplish them. I would see the calendar say December and realize I hadn’t reached any of my goals for the year. I felt like a failure.
But I finally figured out the answer. I figured out the four reasons why I wasn’t accomplishing my goals. I want to share those here with you.
I want to help you build a roadmap to the life of your dreams. And the reasons why you aren’t accomplishing your goals? They are your ROADBLOCKS. Roadblocks keep you from moving forward. They stop you from taking the next step and stop you from accomplishing your goals. They stop you from reaching your destination.
Here are your roadblocks in order of importance:
ROADBLOCK #1: You don’t know what you want.
That sounds really simple but it’s true. If you don’t know what you want, if you don’t know your destination it’s really hard to get there.
ROADBLOCK #2: You don’t know where to start.
Even if you know your destination or your goal, if you don’t know your first step it’s really hard to take it. You have to know where to start.
ROADBLOCK #3: You don’t know how to get there.
Even if you know where you are going and know your first step it’s really hard to get there if you don’t know HOW you are going to do it. You have no strategy for getting there.
ROADBLOCK #4: You don’t know how to stay on track.
If you have no tracking mechanism in place, how do you know if you have been successful? You have to have a system in place to track your progress.
These are the four ROADBLOCKS I have run into while trying to accomplish my goals.
Hopefully this will help you avoid them.
Stay tuned for more in depth videos and blog posts in this series.
We all have times in our lives where we come to a brick wall and don’t know how to go over, under or around it. I came to such a point with my blog. I had soooo many ideas that I just got overwhelmed. I didn’t know where to go next. I didn’t know if I should go right, left, up or down. So I didn’t go anywhere. I stayed where I was. I had to peel back all the things I thought I SHOULD be doing and find the things that I WANTED to do.
And what do I WANT to do? I want to help women. Women like me who are stuck. Who don’t like their lives but don’t know how to change them.
I finally slogged through everything. All the notes I took, all the books I read and all the podcasts I listened to. I slogged through it all and figured out where I can help others. What I’m good at. Where my talents lie.
So I am officially rebooting Rebecca’s Roadmap. I hope you find it a place that will help you build the life of your dreams. A life that you love. I’ll tell you all about it in the video below.
Thanks for watching and thanks for reading!
I ran across a Periscope recording by The Reset Girl. If you haven’t heard of Cori please check her out, she is awesome and inspiring. Just the other day I was wondering how she came up with her brand name. Come to find out it was because she had life changing events happen and she had to “reset” her life. I can totally empathize with her. I had what I call my “Day of Disgust” that led me to write this blog. I didn’t have life changing events but I had a “Life Changing Moment.”
Anyway I was watching her scope recording and something she said really resonated with me. If you know yourself then you can plan the rest of your life accordingly. She said one of the best things she had ever done was to take the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator assessment. For those of you who haven’t heard of this, it’s a personality assessment. It will help you understand what is normal FOR YOU. You are the only one who can plan a life for YOU.. You are the only one that can create a ROADMAP for YOU. What is normal for you will not be normal for someone else. Embrace your quirks and BE who you ARE.
I’d heard of the Myers-Briggs assessment but had never taken the test. So today I’m going to stop writing RIGHT HERE and go take the test. I’ll let you know what I find out.
Okay the “Official” Myers-Briggs is 49.95. I don’t have 49.95 to spend on this right now. It’s not in my budget for this month so I found a free version from 16 personalities.com. Off I go.
Wow this is really mind blowing. After I took the test and read the first section of the results I took my laptop into where my husband was working and had him take the test. The free one is very short. It only takes about five or ten minutes. But you must be truthful even if you don’t like your answer. Anyway my husband soon had his results. Comparing the two I soon found out what has been wrong with our relationship all these years. We are almost complete opposites. If he was an Extrovert we would be complete opposites. As we read through each section of the results it was very eye opening. Not only did I understand myself more but I also understood my husband more. He didn’t mean to drive me crazy with his personality traits, just like I didn’t mean to drive him crazy with my personality traits. It seems that I am one to plan for the future and he is one to live in the now. The future will take care of itself. Can you see where that might cause us problems?
As we were completing our mutual read through my daughter came into the room. Of course she had to take the test. Interestingly she is a perfect combination of my husband and myself except that she is an Extrovert. She gets 50% of her traits are like my husband and 50% like me. That is why we drive her crazy. Because she can see both of our points of view.
And finally my son dropped by. We told him what we were doing and of course he said, “Yeah, I’ve already taken that.” It turns out he is almost exactly like me. We only have one trait different. That explains why he is in such conflict with my husband. They are mostly opposite too!
I really wish I would have taken this test much earlier in my life. It would have helped a lot. But at least I got to share it with my children. We had a good discussion on how we each see the world.
Next time I’ll actually talk about my results and how they fit in with my blog and the business I’m building. I decided to spend more time with my family and not stress myself out over writing this blog post so that information will have to wait until next time. You are on pins and needles and can’t wait aren’t you?
Talk to you next time.
According to Wikipedia a New Year’s resolution is a tradition in which a person makes a promise to do an act of self-improvement or something slightly nice.
And a goal is a desired result that a person envisions, plans and commits to achieve.
My goals for 2016 are:
You will notice that these goals are fairly specific. I state that I want to lose 50 lbs over the next year. That is a good start. I state how much weight I want to lose and over what time frame. What is missing? The HOW is missing. If you don’t have a plan up front for how you are going to accomplish and track your goal then your success will be uncertain.
Here is my HOW for the goal Lose 50 lbs by December 31st, 2016.
First I broke that down into a smaller monthly goal of 4.2 lbs. You could even make it a weekly goal of 1.04 lbs. Those smaller amounts sound a little easier and give you small wins.
Second I decided what I needed to DO to accomplish this goal. I need to meal plan so I have better meals on hand and I need to use portion control in my planning. My issue isn’t necessarily what I am eating but how much I am eating. To put it plainly I need to eat less steak and more veggies. And just because Hershey’s original chocolate bars are gluten free doesn’t make them healthy. Sorry I got a little off track there. Moving on….There are many portion control eating plans out there. One I know about is the 21 Day Fix. You eat a set amount of veggies, carbs, protein etc for your weight. I googled the portion measurements and food lists and I am using that in my planning. I also am documenting this in my Happy Planner. If you want to accomplish a goal you need to track it.
Third I enlisted help. My husband and mom will be on this plan with me. We all need a little help from our friends, but only friends that will help hold you accountable without causing you to feel bad about falling off the wagon. And remember changing what you eat is hard to do alone but it can be done. Don’t let that be an obstacle to your success.
The second goal is having 1,000 members on my email list by the end of the year. Again I broke that down into a smaller goal of 84 people a month. My HOW is setting up an email subscription service through MailChimp. I will accomplish this by listening to tutorials and adding small 15-30 minute tasks to my daily “get it done” list in my InnerGuide Planner. I will also be using the help of the app List Goal which gives you reminders every time a new browser window opens helping you track your accomplishments. List Goal will be my friend in this task helping to hold me accountable. You guys can also be my friends and help me reach my goal by subscribing to my newsletter. Your help would be greatly appreciated.
The third goal is both simpler and harder. I will tie this goal into my first goal by using meal planning to make sure we have good clean meals to eat so everyone will want to come to the table. But it is harder because it will depend on other people. If you are a mom or parent I’m sure you know stuff happens during the week. Family members forget to tell you plans and emergencies come up. That is why my goal is only twice a week. It is attainable. I could have said seven times a week but I know that wouldn’t happen and I would only be setting myself up for failure. So how do you track this type of goal? I will mark it on my family calendar. I might even write the goal on the top of the calendar. It is posted where everyone can see it when they walk in the door and will be a gentle reminder of my goal.
What are your goals for 2016? How are you planning to accomplish them?
Let me know in the comments below.
I think everyone ultimately has the same destination in life.
And what might that be?
I think it’s same destination that I have.
A Happy Healthy Life.
I think we see being successful as being happy. And there is nothing wrong with success. I want to be successful also. But my main goal in life is to be happy and healthy.
I’ve read many books on success and being happy in life. I started to notice that these people were all talking about the same things — maybe in a slightly different way but still the same things. So I did what any sane person would do. I started a spreadsheet. As I read each “secret to success” or “secret to happiness” book I took the items the author thought were important and I listed them on the spreadsheet. I grouped like items as I went. I came up with the 12 main “areas of success” listed below.
For all of 2016 I will be blogging about the elements I believe make up a happy healthy life. I am going to test out strategies and tell you what is working and not working. What is going on and how it is affecting my life. My plan is to cover all 12 elements by December 31st, 2016 so that I will have touched on and improved my life and hopefully yours in all 12 of these areas.
I will be sharing under #HappyHealthyLife on twitter and Instagram @rebeccasroadmap.
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I will be adding videos on YouTube under RebeccasRoadmap.
I will be showing how I use planning to make it all happen. I’ll use #PlanForIt! for more plannerly posts.
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